I'm gay and I'm gonna have kids one day....

When I met Adam, as well as being sure of himself, he was sure of two things: "I'm gay" and "I'm going to be a Dad one day".  To Adam, there was no contradiction.  Whereas I grew up thinking: gay = no kids - end of subject.  So I've spent the last eight years coming round to the idea that fatherhood is even possible for me.  About six years ago we went to a seminar run by a Melbourne couple who had had kids via surrogacy in California.  A great idea, but where were we going to get $120,000 from?  So having thought about co-parenting and adopting and figured out that co-parenting is not for us and adopting is a near impossibility, we were excited to learn that surrogacy in India is a real possibility....

Welcome to our blog!

We're just a regular couple wanting to become parents.  Families come in all shapes and sizes these days.  For most combinations of couples, deciding to have children is more about when than if.....  For us, it's anything but straightforward.  After considering all the options (there weren't many!), we've decided on surrogacy.  We've been inspired by the stories we've read in other blogs and hope in time that ours will be just as emotional. But for now we're covering two topics: practical information for others considering this path and our journey to surrogacy in India.

Adam and I plan to write this blog together.  Like most couples, we each have our strengths: I'm administration and he's entertainment. So you'll have a pretty good idea who's writing what!

As we set out, our heads are full of the rational stuff.  The how, the why, the what if....  We've read, reseached, discussed, considered, re-considered and researched some more.  I plan to record some of the topics we've covered over the next few posts.

But now it's time for action.  Tomorrow we're flying to Delhi to see for ourselves what surrogacy in India can offer us....

Wish us luck!