Wednesday 3 July 2013

Happy 1st Birthday!

Today is our amazing son Noah's 1st birthday.  As we celebrate, our thoughts turn to the people who made this day possible and the support we've felt along the way.

We're especially thankful to our anonymous donor; we'll never meet you and yet we see you in Noah's eyes every day.  To our incredible surrogate who carried Noah with a smile despite him kicking his way through the pregnancy.  And to the team at our clinic for their care and professionalism.  Thank you from the bottom of our hearts.

Along the way we met some wonderful couples. We shared the same determination to become parents yet most had had more challenging journies than ours. We're thrilled that all are now either parents already or becoming parents very shortly.  Where there's a will, there's a way.

Our own families are richer for the arrival of our little one and Noah's four grandparents, two aunts and uncle are there for us all the way with their loving support.

And finally, we're now surrounded by other parents with great kids of Noah's age.  Most of those families have a mum and a dad but we share exactly the same daily challenges of raising our little one and so we don't feel any different.

Adam and I were chatting last night about this year gone by.  So much has happened that for once it doesn't feel like a year that has flown by.  We've had so many milestones to celebrate along the way: the precious time we spent in India as we recalibrated our lives as new dads, introducing Noah to our families, first smile, sitting up, crawling, first word......

We often reflect on how our lives took a fork in the road this day last year when we heard "It's a boy!".  As I'm writing this I can hear Noah playing "Bam Bam" with some object he's found that makes a loud noise.  And Adam shouting "Ouch ouch" as he's being slapped.  A boy he certainly is!

So Happy 1st Birthday to our precious little man.  You really are the best thing that ever happened to us.


  1. Happy birthday gorgeous boy! Your family will always have a special place in our family's story. (The part where I describe the difficulties associated with ordering ice cream in India, ha!) I cannot believe how big Noah has gotten! Much love to you all.

  2. Happy Birthday Noah. Guys he is just adorable!!! Sorry I missed this post!

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    Sharvari Karandikar-Chheda, Ph.D.
    Assistant Professor
    College of Social Work
    The Ohio State University